Hi! My name is Tania and I’m working with Nina at The Garden Frankston.
My specialty is in emotional health and well being, and I have been brought in to fuse emotional expertise with Nina’s expertise in digital content so we can empower business owners about body, mind and business.
If body, mind or business is a speciality interest of yours too, I would love to hear from you and showcase your business!
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Firstly I want to share with you a snippet of a letter I wrote to myself over 10 years ago.
Why do I have to feel everything so deeply,
Why is it I feel others sadness,
I wish I could be numb,
I wish I didn’t have to feel all the things.
It hurts so much,
I just want it to stop.
I finally found out years later what I was feeling was empathy.
At the time of having all these feelings inside of me, I thought it was a life sentence, however I eventually realised it was empathy; a skill (and a much needed skill) which helps me connect with others.
Brené brown says “Empathy Fuels connection, sympathy drives disconnection.
Brené also mentions “Teresa Wiseman” and her 4 qualities of empathy in the video.
- Perspective taking
- Staying out of judgement
- Recognising emotion in other people
- Communicating that
“Feeling with people” ~Brené Brown says.
Here is a great clip..
Once I knew these feelings weren’t bad, I decided to take the gift I have (that we all have- which is to feel with others) and to regulate my owns feeling in sadness, or pain, hurt or distress, and I used it to get to know my own boundaries.
Basically, how much empathy was too much.
Learning to understand empathy as a skill means I now use my understanding of how empathy impacts me physically and emotionally to empower myself to pull back when needed instead of living with what I thought was a life sentence of feeling emotions so deeply.
So let’s open up the conversation about empathy on social media and discuss it further..
- Do you know your limits?
- Do you work with people in which you need to employ empathy ?
- What techniques or awareness do you have, that allow you the knowledge of how much empathy is too much for you?
You can join the conversation at https://www.facebook.com/TheGardenFrankston/
Lastly, empathy isn’t just important in our personal lives; what I’ve learnt from Nina is we also use it in business too.
If you would like to learn how to use empathy in your business, download a copy of an empathy map by clicking this link over at The Change Room Digital Library and begin understanding how your customer sees, thinks, acts and feels. This is really helpful when we need to articulate who our ideal customer is or when we need to map our customer’s journey, and I will get Nina to share a post with you in the next few days to explain how this works at a business level and why it is important to learn.
***PS. Use the coupon code EMPATHY and it will make the worksheets a free download for you. This will come in handy as you learn to stack different worksheets together over the next few months and build your own book 🙂