Many of us carry stories of who we should be and how the world should be. We record these stories on mind tapes and then we play them over and over again even though they don’t serve our happiness. We unconsciously create future outcomes based on relative truths and past experiences and we use this as a benchmark to measure what could happen if we do something that takes us out of our comfort zone.
Our Ego, the story maker of the mind, is good at stepping in the way and steering our judgement off course, as it is an inbuilt survival mechanism that is designed to keep us safe, by being ready to attack or defend us any time we feel threatened.
What if we just let go of the stories and instead lived our life by absolute truths?
Vishen Lakhiani, Founder and CEO of Mindvalley shares that there are two types of truth, Absolute and Relative.
Absolute truths are factual like the grass is green and the sky is blue. However relative truth is what religion, politics, culture, rituals and society have dictated as the rules we need to live our life by in order to be good or successful. With relative truth there is no right or wrong answer and the answer differs from person to person.
This is where relative truth can become distorted as some people get convinced it’s real and therefore lose their ability to challenge this belief and decide what feels true to them. They blindly give away their power without questioning the relative truth and impose their ideas on everyone to follow this belief too or shame the others if they think otherwise.
When practicing mindfulness we take the attitude to become the observer of our thoughts and beliefs. If we do this with without judgement we can then start seeing if our thoughts and beliefs are absolute or relative truths.
We then witness our thoughts by becoming aware of the stories we are creating in the mind, and we realise these stories/thoughts/beliefs only have power if we believe in them.
A belief is only a thought that you have given meaning to.
Therefore when you let go of your beliefs and sense of superiority to know everything, you invite the opportunity to become the listener, the observer and you start seeing that you no longer have to carry the burden of always having to be right by defending your beliefs.
At the end of the day, only you can decide what is aligned to your inner being and feels truthful and authentic to you. If a relative truth feels heavy then ask the question,
Does this align to my true self? Does this serve my happiness?
Or I am following this relative truth to keep others happy so I can feel a sense of belonging?
When we let go of these stories that no longer serves us we gain more freedom to be authentic to ourselves and therefore feel more empowered to follow our own path.
If we release the dead weight of expired beliefs and expectations then the stress we carry from these stories is also released, we notice our load becomes lighter, we feel whole again and become still in our sense of knowing that we are aligned to our inner truth and not living a fabricated lie.
Written by Present Mindfulness Academy