No matter what action we take in life there will always be a consequence. Whether we like or dislike that consequence depends on what we were expecting the outcome to be.
Expectations can lead to disappointment and a victim mindset.
So knowing what outcome we want can tell us what action we should take. However due to our humanness, sometimes we like to over think and create worst-case scenario in our head which can then lead to us avoiding taking action, because we become focussed on a negative outcome. We take on a victim mindset – “Why should I, nothing ever changes?”
A Victim Mindset
When one perceives that they have been deceived or cheated.
Over time through the trials and errors of life we create stories about our self and the world and if we start believing these stories they turn into limiting beliefs and can open up discord within us.
It’s at this point in time that we either turn into a victim, a causality of life or we awaken, become the victor and turn into the hero of our life.
The victim’s usually doesn’t understand why they are doing the things they are doing, they make reactive decision without thinking about whether their action is linked to their purpose and this leads to unfavourable outcomes which they then complain about.
The hero’s sit in awareness and is present with why they are taking certain action, they know that every action has a purpose and they make sure that it is aligned with their truth and core values, and if their action doesn’t lead to the outcome they were hoping for they learn the lesson from this action and keep moving forward.
So how do we awaken to whether we have a Victor or Victim mindset?
By practicing mindfulness, we turn inward and tune into what story we have created, we notice how this makes us feel, and then become aware of what beliefs this has formed. When we check in this way we can see if we are in a victor or victim mindset.
Meditation is a practice that allows us to gain clarity and be consciously aware of what is happening in the mind and this allows us to get ahead of these stories and let them go so they don’t turn into mindsets.
When we start to realise that we are the only person responsible for our actions, we stop being the victim, we stop blaming others for all the wrong that is happening in our life and we can start taking ownership of our life.
We stop making negative self judgments as we start to acknowledge that the consequence of our actions doesn’t determine our self worth but determines what we need to learn and grow.
Remember life is a game and we are all here to play. If we don’t take action when it’s our turn, due to fear of the consequences, then we will never move forward. When we take action that is aligned to our truth and values it might lead to a an unfavourable outcome but know that each mistake we make leads us to the lessons of expansion and growth.
The ‘joy in doing’ is often more important than the outcome’.
Written by Present Mindfulness Academy